Late last night a 'look at me' poster on TM, (no not nina_concertina but another rivalling for the spot) 'sweet_ad' posted poems for the dead Bains on TM no doubt in an emotional wrench. Sweet_ad, some may remember, is the person who politicised the recent anniversary of the Bain deaths by inviting the press and running advertisements for others to attend what for most would be a very personal, private situation. Alas, only sweet_ad and one reporter arrived. I'm sure sweet_ad may have mustered a few tears and been able to manage a 'woe is me' tearful look for the camera but to this point the picture, if there was one, hasn't been published.
But sweet_ad is a little more interesting than that. She is currently contesting with her sister as to who it was that actually knew the Bain family. Messy stuff suitable for a hate-site which is exactly where the comments were published. Not to be out done the sister 'wrote' a confession of sorts allegedly made by Laniet to one half of the sisters. The confession was smugly gathered and hidden in the inner sanctums of one of the sites for only the true nutters to see and drool over. There was no questions raised about its authenticity because it said exactly what the hate-sites wanted. No questions were asked about the tone of the confession or the extraction technique and language of the interviewer who at the time was a school girl. Of course it was never sent to the police, or if it was, there may have been some direction from the police suggesting the writer seek medical help.
Meanwhile, Kent tossing and turning about at night, wondering why he had changed from a white knight to something looking very similar to the lead protagonist in the psycho movie, had an idea to save his bacon. He published the 'confession' for public view. When I heard about it I wrote to him, explaining that publishing or republishing defamatory material shared equal liability for either publisher. I'm not sure whether kenty boy understood that given his current desperation and wilting bravado. This week from what I understand he gets an updated statement of claim included more citations against he and his erstwhile comrade in woe Vic.
Pathetic as it may be to watch, sweet_ad's behaviour shows the prevailing mindset of the hate-siters, all knowing and driven by grief at what is wrong in the world, being the only ones able to see and closing ranks against those that cannot, sharing together in their righteousness and silent on one anothers law-breaking. Does the cybermedia need this? My answer is no. I say these people feed off one another and from cues from the press or anything that can be misconstrued to support their hate campaigns.
I may post my most recent letter to Kent about publishing the 'confession' later, it bounced back, but clearly not before Kent had read or copied it. I know this because his pal supergoof let it slip on TM that I (nos) was stalking kent again. The 'first' time being the letters already published here.
That memoir is an interesting study in itself. The focus on 'self' on the part of the author: the apparent self-importance at having known the Bains, the revelation of personal experience of abuse, the importance of the part played with Laniet's 'confession' Reading it another way, one might pity Laniet: being pushed to 'reveal' something she was reluctant to, having the assumption she was being molested put upon her. One cannot tell whether this was in fact a revelation or a desperate measure to get the person bugging her for an answer to shut up!
ReplyDeleteAnd what about the perverse interpretation of David being irritable about being kept waiting while the car was searched? How many people running taxi for younger relatives and their friends have not had experience of similar irritation? Are we all murderers because of it?
I'm inclined to agree with you, Nostalgia-NZ: poor judgement in accepting that memoir, poorer yet in publishing it, and even poorer in assuming that the disingenuous request to not discuss it or make inferences from it will protect!
Here's some poetry for them.
ReplyDeleteFor five tragic people,
She stood all alone
An anniversary of death
Who cared they had gone?
What about their kin?
And those who cry foul?
Why didn’t they show?
They say they knew them so well.
It’s so easy to stay home
Plot revenge and pretend
But the truth can be shown
by the deeds they extend.
None of them came
But what the heck
They were probably at home
Guarding their cheque.