Police redesign restraint chair after death of prisoner Jaye Taueli from brain bleed | RNZ News
A quick read of this shows how lead footed the authorities reactions to a crisis are. My experience has been to look for a diversion to help the person out of the crisis they feel they are in. In other words, look for the safety valve and level out the talk as being person to person rather than sides, in which one has all the power.
Frankly, restraining a person in the way Jaye was restrained was a reinforcement of power, an unwillingness to get on the same wave link. It is a 'refinement' of chaining a person to the wall to take whatever is bothering him from them to depart the pressure of being shackled in an already darkening world, perhaps without realising that it may have reinforced to the person of their whole life and that this was indeed the final "resolution," and hope or kindness was gone.
Jaye should have been encouraged to realise he was safe and could talk, indeed that the authorities would quickly find someone to speak with him, just any sort of talk to make Jaye feel better, released from what was bothering him, to know there were people that could be trusted, and who could help him. People that were not against him but with him and wishing to travel in the same direction until Jaye was dealing with something new in life - his own identity on his terms, his right to speak about it and perhaps explain what would be better.
He needed to know the person was not there to judge him, but that they had a job when he was ready, and that was to listen to him when everybody else may not have been listening. Somebody that perhaps asked him questions that surprised him and moved his thinking into a different place, identify a problem they both eventually see and be on the same side of as to understanding that, and what Jaye thought could be done. He needed somebody to agree with what he was saying, not chain him to the walk to reinforce the idea that was worthless, couldn't sit at the same table and talk maybe about something that he felt needed to be talked about. Knowing that someone was there to listen, and your job was to listen and understand, not strap into a chair. But perhaps discuss something in common, about a similar place. Not just a physical place but somewhere the mind might go at times, where things could be broken and misunderstood, look for a way of putting something back together, discuss what he thought it needed to be.
If Jaye got somewhere near what he was asking for, or wanted to be, that would be a step, a first step. Jaye could feel he got somewhere, just a beginning and things could change, and he would part of it. Something or somewhere he could feel better, make him feel happy because he had been listened to.
What was done to Jaye was so backward, I've heard this type of plea before with too few people knowing how to listen, turn the volume down, talk, walk side by side. Jaye was worth it.
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